Christians and Recovery

Why most Christians
Will Not Get Into Recovery

II Chronicles 7:14

"If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray and seek my face, and turn away from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land."

I feel that God very well knew and understood that the key factor that would prevent the christians from getting into recovery would be their "Pride". He also knew that as long as that "pride" existed that they would always be trying to be in control of not only their life but the lives of everyone else who would let them. In recovery we call this not only an issue of grandiosity but also co-dependency. But let us first take a look at some definitions of pride and humility to see how well it fits christians...perhaps God was wrong...perhaps pride is not really the major issue for christians...let us take a look.

To Admit In Public To Our Fellow Christians The Nature Of Our Wicked Ways Is Exactly What 90% Of All Christians Are Un-willing To do...And That Is Exactly What Must Be Done If The Full Effect Of II Chronicles 7:14 Is To Be Fulfilled


The below information is right out of the Synonym Finder: I saved you the trouble of looking all these words up. This seems rather clear to me...why is it that most Christians have such major trouble with this?? I assure you that the ones who have already dealt with this problem will agree with me 100% and those who haven't and are still in denial will scream to high heaven about this page. But I understand that their screaming is a cover-up to try to distract from the issue

Humility. -- N. humility, humbleness; meekness, lowness; lowliness, lowlihood; abasement, self-abasement; submission &c. [more]; resignation.

condescension; affability &c. (courtesy) [more].

modesty &c. [more]; verecundity, blush, suffusion, confusion; sense of shame,sense of disgrace; humiliation, mortification; let down, set down.

V. be humble &c. adj.; deign, vouchsafe, condescend; humble oneself, demean oneself; stoop, stoop to conquer; carry coals; submit &c. [more]; submit with a good grace &c. (brook) [more]; yield the palm.

lower one's tone, lower one's note; sing small, draw in one's horns, sober down; hide one's face, hide one's diminished head; not dare to show one's face, take shame to oneself, not have a word to say for oneself; feel shame, be conscious of shame, _ feel disgrace, be conscious of disgrace; drink the cup of humiliation to the dregs.

blush for, blush up to the eves; redden, change color; color up; hang one's head, look foolish, feel small.

render humble; humble, humiliate; let down, set down, take down, tread down, frown down; snub, abash, abase, make one sing small, strike dumb; teach one his distance; take down a peg, take down a peg lower; throw into the shade, cast into the shade &c. [more]; stare out of countenance, put out of countenance; put to the blush; confuse, ashame, mortify, disgrace, crush; send away with a flea in one's ear.

get a setdown.

Adj. humble, lowly, meek;, modest &c. [more]; humble minded, sober- minded; unoffended; submissive &c. [more]; servile, &c. [more].

condescending; affable &c. (courteous) [more].

humbled &c. v.; bowed down, resigned; abashed, ashamed, dashed; out of countenance; down in the mouth; down on one's knees, down on one's marrowbones,

down on one's uppers; humbled in the dust, browbeaten; chapfallen, crestfallen; dumfounded. flabbergasted.

shorn of one's glory &c. (disrepute) [more].

Adv. with downcast eyes, with bated breath, with bended knee; on all fours, on one's feet. under correction, with due deference.

Phr. I am your obedient servant, I am your very humble servant; my service to you; da locum melioribus [Terence]; parvum parva decent [Horace].

Submission. -- N. submission, yielding; nonresistance; obedience &c. [more].

surrender, cession, capitulation, resignation; backdown.

obeisance, homage, kneeling, genuflection, courtesy, curtsy, kowtow, prostration.

V. succumb, submit, yield, bend, resign, defer to.

lay down one's arms, deliver up one's arms; lower colors, haul down colors, strike one's flag, strike colors.

surrender, surrender at discretion; cede, capitulate, come to terms, retreat, beat a retreat; draw in one's horns &c. (humility) [more]; give way, give round, give in, give up; cave in; suffer judgment by default; bend, bend to one's yoke, bend before the storm; reel back; bend down, knuckle down, knuckle to, knuckle under; knock under.

eat dirt, eat the leek, eat humble pie; bite the dust, lick the dust; be at one's feet, fall at one's feet; craven; crouch before, throw oneself at the feet of; swallow the leek, swallow the pill; kiss the rod; turn the other cheek; avaler les couleuvres, gulp down.

obey &c. [more]; kneel to, bow to, pay homage to, cringe to, truckle to; bend the neck, bend the knee; kneel, fall on one's knees, bow submission, courtesy,

curtsy, kowtow.

pocket the affront; make the best of, make a virtue of necessity; grin and abide, grin and bear it, shrug the shoulders, resign oneself; submit with a good grace &c. (bear with) [more].

Adj. surrendering &c. v.; submissive, resigned, crouching; downtrodden; down on one's marrow bones; on one's bended knee; unresisting, non-resisting; pliant &c. (soft) [more]; undefended.

Surrender...Oh No...Anything But That!

For The Christian...Surrndering is the hardest thing to do...

Because of their fear of being "out of control"

Search string: surrender
14 matches to reas:

  • Joshua 20:5
  • Judges 20:13
  • 1 Samuel 11:3
  • 1 Samuel 11:10
  • 1 Samuel 23:11
  • 1 Samuel 23:12
  • 2 Kings 7:4
  • Psalms 41:2
  • Isaiah 54:15
  • Jeremiah 38:17
  • Jeremiah 38:18
  • Jeremiah 38:21
  • Daniel 8:13
  • 1 Corinthians 13:3

untenable, indefensible; humble &c. [more].

Modesty. -- N. modesty; humility &c. [more]; diffidence, timidity; retiring disposition; unobtrusiveness; bashfulness &c. adj.; mauvaise honte; blush, blushing; verecundity; self-knowledge.

reserve, constraint; demureness &c. adj.; " blushing honors " [Henry VIII].

V. be modest &c. adj.; retire, reserve oneself; give way to; draw in one's horns &c. [more]; hide one's face.

keep private, keep in the background, keep one's distance; pursue the noiseless tenor of one's way, " do good by stealth and blush to find it fame " [Pope], hide one's light under a bushel, cast a sheep's eye.

Adj. modest, diffident; humble &c. [more]; timid, timorous, bashful; shy, nervous, skittish, coy, sheepish, shamefaced, blushing, overmodest.

unpretending, unpretentious; unobtrusive, unassuming, unostentatious, un-boastful, un-aspiring; poor in spirit.

out of countenance &c. (humbled) [more]. reserved, constrained, demure.

Adv. humbly &c. adj.; quietly, privately; without ceremony, without beat of drum;

II Chronicles 7:14

"If my people, who are called by my name, will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then will I hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and will heal their land."

What the Bible Says About Humility

Deut. 9:7 vs. 4-29.
Deut. 15:15
Job 5:11
Job 22:29
Job 25:5, 6
Psa. 9:12
Psa. 10:17
Psa. 22:6,26
Psa. 25:9
Psa. 37:11
Psa. 69:32
Psa. 86:1
Psa. 131:1, 2
Psa. 138:6
Psa. 147:6
Psa. 149:4
Prov. 3:34
Prov. 10:8
Prov. 11:2
Prov. 12:15
Prov. 15:33
Prov. 18:12
Prov. 16:19
Prov. 22:4
Prov. 25:6, 7
Prov. 27:2

And Always Keep In Mind The Most Important Factor

  "What we live with we learn,
and what we learn
we practice, and what we
practice, we become...
and what we become
has consequences"...
AND almost always, I have
found, who we become
has little to do with who
we were meant to be.

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