Who Are The 'NORMIES'?

This web site is for all who want more in their Recovery Process, more serenity, better relationships with themselves and with their spouses, children and parents. Money and religion will no longer be non-fulfilling or a source of conflict in their lives.

Before we get any further into this issue of recovery, I feel it important to discuss what we might be recovering from. In other words, what might be considered 'normal' by society and what might not be.

A list of personality characteristics follows. Please take the time to read it now. For the sake of this Home Page I will call these people 'normies'.


This was me most of my life, being 'normal':

  1. Normies love to help others.
  2. Normies have difficulty asking for what they need or want.
  3. Normies suffer accumulated pain.
  4. Normies thrive on crises.
  5. Normies have difficulty experiencing and talking about their feelings, especially anger.
  6. Normies are often alcoholics or drug addicted.
  7. Normies have difficulty being assertive.
  8. Normies feel they are not O.K.
  9. Normies don't trust people.
  10. Normies either adapt readily with people, places and things, or else try to rigidly control them.
  11. Normies have trouble being direct.
  12. Normies are extremely sensitive to criticism.
  13. Normies have trouble managing money.
  14. Normies either procrastinate or are rigidly punctual.
  15. Normies frequently see life through extremes, all good or all bad.
  16. Normies frequently have been abused physically, emotionally, spiritually, and / or sexually.
  17. Normies are impulsive.
  18. Normies are extremely loyal, even in the face of evidence that the loyalty is undeserved.
  19. Normies are either super-responsible or super-irresponsible.
  20. Normies feel that they are different from other people.
  21. Normies constantly seek approval and affirmation.
  22. Normies over-react to changes over which they have no control.
  23. Normies take themselves very seriously.
  24. Normies have difficulty with intimate relationships.
  25. Normies judge themselves without mercy.
  26. Normies lie when it is just as easy to tell the truth.
  27. Normies have difficulty in following a project through from beginning to end.


Now... according to the experts:
96% of the population are 'normies' !!



(...certainly seemed normal to me!)

  1. Made a decision that I could manage to control everything if people would just quit trying to make my life unmanageable.
  2. Firmly believed that there was no power greater than myself and anyone who said so was insane.
  3. Made a decision to remove my will and my life from the care of god who did not understand me anyhow.
  4. Made a searching and moral inventory of everyone I knew, so they could not fool me.
  5. Sought these people out and tried to get them to admit to me and to god the exact nature of their wrongs.
  6. Became willing to help these people to get rid of their defects of character.
  7. Was humble enough to ask these people to remove all their shortcomings.
  8. Made a list of all the persons who had harmed me and waited patiently for a chance to get even with them.
  9. Got even with these people whenever possible, except when to do so would get me into too much trouble.
  10. Continued to take everyone's inventory and when they were wrong, which was most of the time, promptly tried to make them admit it.
  11. Sought through concentration of my will power to get god, who didn't understand me anyway, to see that my idea's were really better than his, and that he should give me the power to carry them out.
  12. Having maintained my thinking many years through these steps I recommended them to other controllers who did not want to lose their hard-earned status, but wanted to be alone to practice their dysfunction.



And Always Keep In Mind The Most Important Factor

  "What we live with we learn,
and what we learn
we practice, and what we
practice, we become...
and what we become
has consequences"...
AND almost always, I have
found, who we become
has little to do with who
we were meant to be.

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(Est. 4.15.96)

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